Going through a divorce is a difficult undertaking, that can become exhausting when you’re dealing with an ex-spouse who exhibits narcissistic tendencies. By nature, narcissists are so self-absorbed that they can’t effectively consider how their behavior will impact those around them.
Because narcissists often fail to consider others around them, they don’t always view reality the same as everyone else. Their tendencies to bend the truth, lie and try to invoke emotions and reactions in others can be challenging.
Establish boundaries and maintain them
An ex-spouse may seek to manipulate people so they can control situations. They may try to do this as a way to control the divorce. Set your boundaries and uphold them because this can minimize their ability to manipulate you. It may be beneficial to communicate through your legal representative so your ex cannot see any type of reaction from you.
Document everything meticulously
An ex-spouse may also try to twist facts to their advantage, especially involving children. To counteract this, meticulously document all interactions with them. Keep detailed records of communications, including emails, text messages and phone calls. Note dates, times and the content of conversations to create a clear timeline of events. This documentation can provide evidence to support your claims and counter false accusations.
Prepare for a lengthy process
Due to the added complexities associated with divorcing a spouse with narcissistic tendencies, it’s usually a good idea to have a legal representative who can assist you with protecting your rights. They may be able to help you stay focused on the factual side of matters instead of being drawn into emotional responses as you work out the terms of the divorce.
